whats the best way to deal with the death of your dog?

My sister's rat terrier, Lady, was found this morning dead in the street. Apparently, she had gotten out of the house somehow and was killed by a motorist. She and her family, particulary her 8 year old son, are taking it extremely hard. I need to know what I can do to help them feel better? Any suggestions would be helpful.

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  • Betty MorganBetty Morgan CitronellePosts: 5,018Member
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    I’m so sorry. I don’t know what you can do other then be there for them and try to help them with the pain and guilt. Accidents happen, I got out the other night when the door didn’t latch. I made it home safe, but anything could have happened. Just validate their feelings, listen, and sympathize. Don’t try to make them get over it too soon. They may need to grieve and feel bad for a time. Try to keep people away from them who won’t understand and take their pain seriously. Condolences Fritz
  • Claire RobisonClaire Robison Oregon CityPosts: 4,926Member
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    If it's not too late, the body already gone, they should hold a funeral. Make a ritual out of it, that legitimizes their grief. Bury the dog somewhere you can come back and visit, like in their back yard, and plant some kind of tree over it. Think of the dog as the tree grows, and it makes a nice memorial. Or if you have the body cremated, sprinkle the ashes in the dogs favorite places. If you have lots of photos of the dog, make a farewell scrapbook. It might be painful at first, but try to remember the good times with the pet, and realize it's okay to be sad. Above all, NEVER say "it was only a dog, what's the big deal" or other things that belittle how much they loved it and how sad they are. It's OKAY TO BE SAD, and sometimes it takes a while to get over it, don't rush that. Don't rush them into getting another dog, I think they should eventually get another, but not until they're ready.
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