Sorry in advance, this will probably be a longish post.
A little background:
Kylo is a one-year-old Pit bull-Dachshund mix. My husband and I adopted Kylo from the humane society on October 6, 2017. He was 9 months old at the time. The only information we were given about his background was that his previous owner had kept him locked in a crate for 18+ hours a day. That should have been my first red flag but since I was 4 the last time I had a dog... anyway.
The first couple weeks were mostly without incident. But since about the beginning of November, Kylo displays extreme anxiety whenever either my husband or I leave, and I'm not talking just about leaving the house. Leaving the ROOM, going to the bathroom, the kitchen, to put laundry in the dryer. If my husband goes to bed before I do, the dog freaks out because we aren't both in the same room with him. Howling, crying, shaking, barking, whining, pacing. And if we HAVE to leave him home in his crate... he is so far beyond stressed out. I'm at the end of my rope. I love him but ... I also hate him. I wish I'd never adopted him, and I want to give him back. BUT my husband is in love with the dog and doesn't see ANY of this behavior as a reason to relinquish him. My husband doesn't actually SEE most of this behavior because he works 40 hours a week and I'm home with the kids (4 cats and the dog, no human kids.)
I need help. I need some advice from people who've dealt with this. And yes, I've searched the whole of the internet. I need more than what's out there. I've tried everything I've read about except for drugs - vet appointment is next month.
I'm a cat person who got a dog with severe problems and I don't love this dog enough to spend 24/7 understanding his problems. (And before anyone asks, I suffer from anxiety myself so I actually understand what he's going through, I just don't have the emotional energy to deal with it the way he DESERVES. I want to, I really do. I just need help.)
Thanks for reading